ORLANDO, Fla. (Ivanhoe Newswire) — One dating site gathered data from ten thousand members to find the most common reasons for ending relationships. The first five were cheating, bad sex, jealousy, finances, and family differences. When getting over an ex is particularly hard, sometimes you must turn to science.
“In-laws, sex, money, children, affairs …” Relationship specialist Hedy Schleifer has seen couples argue about it all. But she says sometimes letting go is harder than holding on.
Schleifer said, “now you’re trying to get what you want by force, you’re not in a connection anymore.”
A study published in the journal of experimental psychology tested three strategies: one, to think about negative or annoying traits their ex had. Two, to repeat statements about accepting their feelings, and three: to think of something distracting.
Participants were then shown a photo of their ex while an e-e-g was read and filled out a questionnaire. All three strategies displayed a decreased emotional response with the first being most effective. So if you’re trying to move on, give the scientific way a try!
In a separate study to determine how time affected relationships, 60 percent of couples who had been together for less than two months were no longer together in the second year of the study. But after couples had lasted a year or longer, it reduced their chances of breaking up by about 20 percent.
Contributor(s) to this news report include: Hayley Hudson, Producer; Angela Clooney, Videographer and Editor.
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