Confessions of a Serial Dater—How to Find your True Love
How people date generally evolves as society does. As modern culture has moved online, so has dating: eHarmony and Match.com have 35 million members between them, and about 40 percent of the single population uses online dating sites. And one in six Americans have said they were or have broken up with someone via text, email, or a social network. But modern dating is more than just online dating; it’s a singles’ game. There are now more than 100 million single people in the U.S., and the percentage of those married before the age of 30 has fallen with each generation since the Silent Generation. Currently only 23 percent of Millennials are married. Even simple things about the dating process have changed: over 90 percent of men now say they wouldn’t mind if a girl asked them out, and half of people asked said they didn’t care if the man or woman pays. (Sources: http://www.match.com/magazine/article/4671/, http://www.people-press.org/2011/11/03/section-1-how-generations-have-changed/, http://www.statisticbrain.com/online-dating-statistics/)
Personal Dating Habits: Apart from cultural dating changes, there are many things you can do if you’re single to meet the right person. Here a few habits you can develop:
Get out: More than 50 percent of those who are single report not having been on a date in two years. Getting out and socializing, while sometimes frightening, is the only way you’ll actually meet someone. Even if you meet someone online, eventually you’ll have to leave your house to meet them. Getting out there slowly, with a close friend, will help you get comfortable in the single world.
Don’t be too choosy: Psychologists have likened dating to shopping, specifically in terms of options. Too many options can often paralyze a shopper, and the same thing can happen to single people. People can often wait until the “perfect” person comes around, but that may not always be possible. Knowing when and who to commit to can often be just as rewarding as waiting.
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