Molly Bears: Healing a Mother's Broken Heart
Parents can lose their baby through a miscarriage, ectopic pregnancy, stillbirth or other misfortune. It is normal to feel grief, guilt, despair and have problems being around other pregnant women and mothers with babies.
WHAT TO EXPECT: You may have the opportunity to see and hold your baby. If you feel comfortable, take pictures of the baby. Talk with your baby and say goodbye. Take your time. Don’t let go until you feel ready. Many women find this helps with their grieving, but it is your choice. Keepsakes may be offered to you – footprints, a baby blanket, bracelets or a lock of hair.
WHERE TO TURN: You will need physical and psychological postpartum care. After you leave the hospital, your health care provider, the public health nurse, local crisis center and others who have been in a similar situation can help. Your health care provider can give you information, help you make difficult decisions and possibly set up counseling or referrals. Help is also available from the hospital social worker, chaplain and nurses.
MOVING ON: If you decide to become pregnant again after losing a child, it is normal to be anxious. Talk about concerns with your health care provider. Some women may feel detached during the labor or a pregnancy following a stillbirth. If you experience emotional difficulty after the birth of your baby, contact your health care provider or public health nurse.
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